What would change if we shifted our focus from blaming the victim to being accountable?
Daily we see and experience real-time life situations that seem to steer us into looking for who is to blame. This could be changes both large and small; something at home like; who forgot to empty the dishwasher or the trash; it could take place commuting to work and an accident occurs; at work with deadlines not being met, faulty products being produced; it could be a natural or man-made disasters tearing apart lives and killing people, community and/or political unrest. . . the examples seem endless; and so too does the endless barrage of blaming the victim-as if incidents occur in a vacuum and only one person is to blame. Our culture seems to have become obsessed with this mindset of pulling our own angry trigger and seeking revenge.
Rather than repeating this habitual pattern, what if we changed our own focus and started from a different perspective, a place of accountability which allows us to move forward looking for resolutions and preventive insights?
I felt inspired to start this conversation with you from a quote I recently read in a novel “29″ by Mary Sojourner. The quote was: “In the short run, we are all responsible” by Walt Richardson.
Maybe you would be willing to write that question down and carry it with you for this week and apply the quote to as many incidents as you can and notice what happens.
From that quote came this one question: What would change if we shifted our focus from blaming the victim to being accountable?