Perspective: Walk a mile in another person’s shoes.
Every person is going through a challenge, be it mentally, physically, financially and spiritually. Per request of writer of this letter, I have edited out identifying aspects. However, there are aspects we can relate to. Even the aspects that we can’t relate to, we can put ourselves in this person’s shoes and ask ourselves; what would I do here? Would I trade my challenges for this person’s challenges? What can I learn from this person?
My challenge today is a physical and mental healing needed. The physical is recovering from an injury ironically inflicted by one of my horses. My error in judgment caused me to get into a situation that created my injury. I was bringing the horses in at the end of the day and my QH gelding charged towards me wanting to be in first. He never behaved this way before – I guess he was anxious for the time I spend recently with his sister getting her tuned up for a show…the result was he ran me down and stepped on my leg (knee) causing ligament damage – the other injuries and bruising surfaced a couple of days later. The body does not like being ground into gravel!
The mental challenge is my unemployment…I am working part-time consulting as a Food Safety Specialist teaching HACCP and Quality Management – however, those contracts are not coming frequently enough. Working with an agency has helped and I get great feedback from the clients. I have had successful interviews where I think I am a great fit – but it is hard to compare one’s ability to what you can’t see (the other candidates)…What I need is more work – I love to work at what I am doing now – most of the first interviews are by phone (the new standard) – so it is really hard to judge how people are receiving you.
When I am stressed mentally I usually can go for a ride – I have been enjoying the summer in between teaching stints and riding at the park – training my mare – and enjoying the gifts I have – my horses, the farm, my husband, supporting a friend who is being treated for pancreatic cancer helps me keep my perspective in check…until now.
I am frustrated my income is limited – I made a stupid error in judgment and got hurt – I can’t ride – I and can’t show the mare next weekend. Yes, a pity party! Then I get mad at myself for that too!
I think I am still hurting from being laid off from my job; hurting that I can’t get a new job; wondering what is being said about me in my professional connections; hurting physically and unable to help with work at home; hurting that I can’t relieve frustration by being with the horses….and to top it all experiencing insomnia due to menopause.
So Kari – what do you tell a woman as messed up as I? Yes, I think about my friend again and say – “suck it up princess”
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